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    Re: Did your parents ever tell you they loved you?

    I'd like to think my biological father did when I was growing up. I was really close to him and when he left, I was angry and blamed it on my mother, etc. etc. My mother would tell me all the time, a lot of the time I didn't believe it or feel it. I felt like a constant screw up and she loved my sibs more than me. My step-father told us like when we would leave for a school trip or something... Now that I look back, it may have been awkward but he had a bit of a hard life growing up and probably didn't know how to express feelings.

    My sibs and I tell each other, but it's kinda rare. I remember laughing and being in shock when a co-worker of mine said at the end of a phone conversation with her brother "I love you." I thought she was talking to her boyfriend and when she was like, "No, it was my brother." I was like, "WTF?! HAHAHA! SERIOUSLY? My bro and I don't do that at all! Siblings tell each other that?"



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    Re: Did your parents ever tell you they loved you?

    Well I don't really want to get into my childhood honestly. Needless to say me and my brother have been together(close) since we could identify each other...we don't say I love you..Hell no. But people don't have to say it to make others believe it. Actions speak louder for me.

    My Dad in the past would, in conversations..usually those "bad, sad, life ending" ones say something along the lines of "well you both know I love you"....and for some reason it pissed me off honestly. Same with my brother.
    My Mom calls every now and then and ends with "IIII Looooove Youuuu"...and really..I don't like it. I have said it back just to end this moment.
    I know my parents love me. They don;t have to say it, and I really don't want to hear it.

    I don't say it to my kids. And thinking about all this, it makes me feel bad. I love my kids to no end. They should now this, but I'm sure one day I start an odd conversation with...sigh. "you both know I love you".....dammit.
    I really don't know how to say it to them without feeling funny. If I said it, they would just look at me like...what's a matter? They hear me say it to the wife everyday.
    I don't know. I'm eff'd up in so many ways I guess.
    But like I said, my actions speak much louder then my words. I show my love thru them. And would gladly die for them.




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    Re: Did your parents ever tell you they loved you?

    Um..
    You don't have to die for them I hope, but try telling your kid's you love them when you see them in the morning and at the end of the day.
    Kind of like the way you do to the wife in front of them.

    Just a suggestion.

    In spite of actions, or intentions, never (well hardly ever!) hearing it leaves a mark.
    and you know it.

    You just told me so.

    And words with actions show more than actions alone.
    Or don't you love them enough to be bothered?

    Spoiler




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    Re: Did your parents ever tell you they loved you?

    Quote Originally Posted by BobCox2 View Post
    Or don't you love them enough to be bothered?
    Bob, I know you're trying to do good and your heart's in the right place, but saying stuff like this is a good way to make people want to punch you in the face. The spoiler doesn't change that.

    Just sayin'.



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    Re: Did your parents ever tell you they loved you?

    well, i agree with Bob. i know for some people it's weird to say, "I love you mijo/mija" (son/daughter) but... if you NEVER say it? it does leave a mark and you grow up wondering, "Did my parents EVER love me?" my mother would but it's the way she would say it sometimes that made me wonder and her actions. I mean, I'm no saint or angel and I did some bad things, but... sometimes, you can't help but wonder.



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    Re: Did your parents ever tell you they loved you?

    My parents have a lot of problems....A lot. Even to this day, it's sad really, I do feel sorry for them both.

    I had more typed out but it's to long to get into really.
    I have had step-moms, step-dads over and over, and over again. Some beat, some yell, some are dangerous, some are happy drunks. Me and my brother have seen it all...sure some see much worse, so much worse...but it opens the eyes ya know.
    I'm still married after 13 yrs to the same woman. Got two sons, just like me and my brother were. The life they live day to day is so much better......omg, I can't even stress this enough. To know what we've come from, to where we are, it's amazing. We are glad we lived thru it actually. My sons know this, they know my past life, I've told them...some of it still goes on thru my parents even today, which we pretty much "block" from our familes as much as possible.
    I mean my mom could be dead right now, and we wouldn't even know, no one would tell me and my brother, till we were asked to carry the casket...my Dad had Cancer last year, he never told us, till he was going to get Organs removed.....and we work together, everyday! <<this is what I don't want to get into. I don't want to badmouth them on a forum about certain ways they do things. That's them, not me.
    So the way I see it, if I don't say "I love you" everyday, then ok I'm somehow screwed up somehow in this area. I don't know why. My brother "I asked him today actually for the first time", do you say I love you to your kids, he does, morning and night. I told him I only say it to the wife, and you know, the kids should just know. He understands. He both do not want to hear our parents say it to us...why is this?
    We both know they love us, of course they do....but honestly, if tomorrow my Dad say "son, I really don't love you, you have been a pain since you were born"....i'm honestly ok with this, doesn't bother me. And would prolly explain a lot..lol.
    This will never happen to my kids. My kids love me, I know this, they don't have to tell me.
    In a way, we lost a lot of respect for both our parents growing up. They were there for themselves, while we were growing up pretty much off the street. My Dad so so obsessed with my mom after the divorce "the war" pretty much lasted about 15 yrs. So many fights, I can remember before I was even five.
    One of my oldest memories is of my aunt beating my mom's *** while my Dad was pretty much letting her do it, while we sat in the picture window and watched in horror of my mom getting tore apart. I still remember seeing my reflection in the glass crying, while she was looking up at us fighting her off....I have a deep hate for a lot of my family. I don't care if they tell me they love me or not. But I do care for them, even still.
    Where there's bad, there's good. I prayed for what I have today, and was blessed. I thank God a lot for what I hear everyday. Laughter instead of screaming. Crying of a sad movie, not a sad situation. I see smiles everyday...I smile everyday. And pray it never leaves me. Keep me poor, I don't care, I pray for health and happiness. In the house that I built (literally), good prevails.

    Some may not understand some of this. And like I said, I don't want to get into 30 yrs of "stuff". But I learned along time ago "you follow your heart, and you'll never go wrong". My heart tells me that what I'm doing is fine today...but who knows...maybe some "I love you's" wouldn't hurt. I mean honestly, it makes me smile thinking about it.




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    Re: Did your parents ever tell you they loved you?

    My parents were always pretty affectionate when I was younger, but they reacted poorly to my teenage rebellion phase, and things have been awkward since then. For the most part they are intolerable to be around, with the exception that my dad and I go on a white water trip once a year. For whatever reason my dad's personality is just completely different on the river than back in civilization, it mellows him out a lot.

    Here's what we do when we're able to tolerate each other:
    http://img444.imageshack.us/img444/2...nyfallslx1.jpg



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    Re: Did your parents ever tell you they loved you?

    Quote Originally Posted by magicrectangle View Post
    Here's what we do when we're able to tolerate each other:
    http://img444.imageshack.us/img444/2...nyfallslx1.jpg
    Dat sexy lady pose.
    BUT WHO AM I REFERRING TO??

    Both y'all sexy, real talk.




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    Re: Did your parents ever tell you they loved you?

    yes they did, and we're still close. they're less than an hour away and I visit regularly.




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    Re: Did your parents ever tell you they loved you?

    Both parents did and still do, and I'm 42. And I tell my 14 year old son.



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