Hey look, it's another guy turning to an online forum for love and support.
So, earlier today my father was diagnosed with prostate cancer. They apparently caught it pretty early, and there's apparently a good chance (high 90s) that it hasn't spread anywhere else yet. I'm not sure exactly what to expect, and I'm not sure what treatment is goign to entail; he still needs to seek out more opinions, in the opinion of my mother (they are divorced).
I drove him to the freaking biopsy last week but it never really crossed my mind that the test result would come back positive.
I guess I could just use the advice, comfort, thoughts, and prayers of some internet-strangers-turned-friends right now, if you've got any to spare.
Looking for help? Call her a hussy and walk off in a pissy fit.
Oops, wrong type of help you're looking for. Sorry, canned response to the overabundance of relationship threads.
Prostate cancer is the easiest to treat and the one with the highest rate of success. I don't know the details of the how and what of the treatment. Best I can say is don't let it get to either of you. This can and will be beaten.
Learn as much as you can about what it is, what it does, and what is available to treat it.
Focus your energy on helping this person you love through it, rather than get caught up in the negatives of what "might" happen.
Find a support group if you are struggling, there are TONS of them out there for cancer families.
And finally, here is a picture of a childhood leukemia survivor. Healthy and strong for 3+ years now. http://static.flickr.com/47/112508419_441404d35c_o.jpg
This is my daughter Abigail who not only survived her own cancer but helped me survive it as well. Best wishes from my whole family.
Best thing you can do is inspire confidence. You have to make up your mind that he's going to beat it. Learn everything you can. And talk about it. If he sees you worry, he may be more likely to worry about it himself. If you're confident, hopefully he'll feed off of it. You'd be amazed how much someone's state of mind effects their recovery.
Thanks all. Took him out to dinner tonight, watched a little hoops action, talked about it minimally. He had two beers, which if you know my father is quite the rare occasion. I feel bad about going back to school on Saturday, but I'll be right back here at his side at the drop of a hat if he needs.
One thing I am looking forward to is the first unfortunate soul who has the humorous sense to tell me that he hopes I get cancer and that I then perish. The look on his face when I shoot back "Oh really? Do you also hope that my father gets cancer and dies? Because he's halfway there." Not because I'll be offended, but because that person will feel like the biggest ****head there is, and that's what life is all about: Belittling the people close to you for personal gain.
I am sorry to hear of your father condition, and I hope he is able to beat the cancer.
I really like the sound of your relationship with your dad, and they way you are "being there" for him. After seeing / hearing so many young peole who slag off their parents, its great to hear of a case where a son truly cares (dare I say loves) his dad.
(A son who also really loved his dad .... RIP)