Let's question my sexuality.

[superdave]

Dross, I don't know what kind of resources are in your part of the universe, but there are usually *** clubs that do everything from video gaming to sculling.

i can recommend a good book if you are interested in sculling...."Down and Dirty Guide to Coxing 2nd Edition"

i am not the only one to recommend this excellent resource either....

"The Down and Dirty Guide To Coxing is one of the best tools that I have seen for young coxswains. We have made it standard issue to the coxswains on our team."
Kevin Harris, Head Coach

[Punkonjunk]

haha... sweeds... Damn is my currenty lady is so much the swedish.
Haha, swedish fish? I'll stop now.

[Bortaz]

I certainly hope you don't think any of that **** made any sense.

[Jude]

Try to find out if there is a *** & Lesbian Community Center or something similar in your area. Not only may it provide a "safe" place to hang out, but often they host many different kinds of clubs and groups, and keep a calendar of upcoming events.

I'd also recommend not having sex just to see if you really are ***. Wait until you find someone special (sorry about the cliché--but I am serious).

Jude

[Anakha1]

I'm with the people who don't think that sexual preference is cut and dry, black and white, two or three choice kind of thing. I think it's whomever you're attracted to. That's why it's called sexual preference. You may prefer one kind of person over another but it doesn't exclude the rest. In the end the only one who can answer your questions is you.

[Drosselmeier]

That's ok, he can still post pics of them. I'm sure after a few pics I can come up with some enlightening and worthwhile advice. ~fingers crossed~

I have lots of pictures but I don't think posting them here would be a good idea. Think alphas rather than pretty-boys.

The community center idea is good. I was thinking about *** bars but considering the problems with meeting people at bars in general some sort of sober and civilized enviroment seems like a better idea.

Please. Let's not mention drinking again.

[zodiac66]

Wow Dross..that kind of came out of no where. I don't mean that in a bad way. I have been reading the posts and since I seem to have the flu that is going around and not very coherent, I have not formulated a good response.

For the past couple years I would consider myself asexual. Honestly, I could care less if I ever have sex again. I have never had a big O with any man. Maybe my partners were crappy, but I find it a total waste of my time. Maybe I view sex as a reproductive activity and I have done that. Maybe I am a closet lesbian. Maybe I just haven't met the right man.

In any event, I wuvs you Dross and am there for you at any time.

[Drosselmeier]

In any event, I wuvs you Dross and am there for you at any time.

Thanks Zodi. I really appreciate it.

About the asexuality thing, which a bunch of people have brought up. If I'm certain of anything it's that I'm not asexual. I'm probably closer to oversexual, at times at least. I'm constantly aware of sex and tend to judge the sexiness of everyone I meet or see in the first five seconds.

[zodiac66]

That is the problem I have now...I find no one attractive. Well there was this one dude in my group therapy program. He was middle aged..poor, but something about him was interesting. I wish I would have asked for his email. He was there for a gambling addiction. He wasn't cute..he wasn't rich..but there was something about him that I liked. Maybe it was not something sexual, but something emotional. In any event, he is gone and I am back to my normal self.

I guess that is something to explore with my doc. I was never abused as a child but I view sex as reproduction..been there done that.

I don't get excited over anything. Maybe it stems from the fact that I am a mom first. I could care less if I had the most handsome/lovely person in the world..I am a mom.

Or maybe I haven't met a man who needs to be whipped into submission .

I can't give you any advice on what gets one off. I don't know myself.

Dross..don't you have AIM? ICQ just scares me.

I installed it for you, my dear, but you are not online:fortuneteller: .

[Drosselmeier]

I guess that is something to explore with my doc. I was never abused as a child but I view sex as reproduction..been there done that..

It's sort of rude to tell you you haven't had the right man, but I wouldn't rule out that possibility. Of course, sex and emotion isn't always that easy to separate, so you'd probably need someone you wanted to hug in the innocent way too.

I wouldn't be surprised if the stress you've been dealing with have something to do with this too. As you said, you're a mother. It's hard both to let down ones guard emotionally and to allow oneself to follow up on urges when life is all about responsibility and stress.

Or maybe I haven't met a man who needs to be whipped into submission

:leather:

EDIT: I'm going to try to get trillian running.