I was torqued off at the punk, not you. I get called a homophobe a lot, but that was the real thing. Lesson learned? Good.Originally Posted by Drosselmeier
I have the perfect solution to your dillemma. Get a dog. He'll love you no matter what.
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Thread: Let's question my sexuality.
15-02-2006, 21:43 #121
15-02-2006, 22:22 #122
Dross..you are a great catch no matter what sex gets you. You are attractive, intelligent and listen to the most awsome music ever .
I know it is an issue, but it shouldn't be. Life is short and you shouldn't worry about what other people think. I can tell you stories of my younger days where I went to invite only parties. Believe me, you have not lived until you have had someone want to sniff your shoe..hehe. That is a topic for another day. I have been in places where deviance is the norm. Don't ever let anyone tell you your feelings/urges are wrong.
You have to find out what makes you happy.
15-02-2006, 22:53 #123Originally Posted by Jude
It would be nice to be able to answer confidently when people ask. Maybe that's why I'm so hung up on an answer to that question. Sort of like a crutch to help me deal with peoples reaction.
I guess there's a lot of truth to what was said earlier about me thinking about this way too much. I guess I should try to just go by what feels most right.
I called up an old girlfriend who knows people. I'm going for a beer or fika with her on friday. I've decided to tell her that I suspect I'm *** and ask her if she can introduce me to any cool people. She's really great and I'm sure she's the one to talk to about this even aside from her connections.
Originally Posted by Zodiac66
15-02-2006, 23:08 #124
Originally Posted by Jude
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16-02-2006, 01:29 #125
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I really can't add anything new to this discussion as there have already been very many supportive and well-thought posts. So... I will likely only reinforce some of the ideas which have already been brought up.
The most important thing in life, is to find a way to be comfortable in your own skin. God knows that was a hard journey for me, but I finally reached that point at the age of 32-ish. I am eternally grateful that I did, because I had made my own life hell up to that point. I truly hope the same for you Dross.
As many have already said, each person has a level of sexuality. Some are exclusively straight, some are mostly straight but may entertain some homosexual types of thoughts, some bisexual, etc. (consider the spectrum and diversity of human sexuality). In the end, each person needs to find comfort in their levels of sexuality and should never feel ashamed of it. The only exceptions I would have to this are exploitive sexual expression (i.e. adult/children), non consentual sexuality, and sexuality that blatantly debases other people and/or causes harm to others.
It's important to find your "niche" and to surround yourself with friends that accept you for you. Any friends that would degrade you, debase you, or otherwise not be supportive are not worthy of your friendship or time. Luckily, there are more and more ***/lesbian/transgendered friendly communities to plug into nowadays and are not as hard to find. Even moreso, these communities themselves are starting to evolve more and are not as "exclusive" as they once were (i.e. more groups are now open to having "straight" supporters being involved with them and realize that there should be openness for everyone).
Anyhow, my hats off to you Dross for taking a risk and talking about a subject that simply isn't easy to talk about. I hope it sounds pretty clear to you that you have supporters here at a very minimum.
16-02-2006, 06:14 #126Originally Posted by Evil Conservative Inc
Dross: Your posts in here make it abundantly clear that you're giving this whole matter the proper consideration it deserves. You have your head screwed on straight, whatever your emotions might be doing to you from time to time, so I'm not going to worry about you.
16-02-2006, 11:28 #127
Originally Posted by Drosselmeier
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16-02-2006, 11:31 #128
Originally Posted by SaroDarksbane
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16-02-2006, 11:53 #129Originally Posted by LunarSolaris
Originally Posted by LunarSolaris
That said, it feels really good talking about it. It can't be healthy to just go around turning it over in your own head day after day. And it's nice to get some support and well-wishes.
Nice to see you again by the way.
Originally Posted by myleftfoot
16-02-2006, 12:10 #130Originally Posted by myleftfoot
Then when we say, "but we do mind," they get all nasty and insulting.
It's okay to look, but not okay to interfere with someone's date or harass someone who isn't interested.