Let's question my sexuality.

[Sir EvilFreeSmeg]

First I though Smeg was angry at me. When I tried to log in I typed the password wrong, and for a second I thought I'd been banned again.

I was torqued off at the punk, not you. I get called a homophobe a lot, but that was the real thing. Lesson learned? Good.

I have the perfect solution to your dillemma. Get a dog. He'll love you no matter what.

[zodiac66]

Dross..you are a great catch no matter what sex gets you. You are attractive, intelligent and listen to the most awsome music ever .

I know it is an issue, but it shouldn't be. Life is short and you shouldn't worry about what other people think. I can tell you stories of my younger days where I went to invite only parties. Believe me, you have not lived until you have had someone want to sniff your shoe..hehe. That is a topic for another day. I have been in places where deviance is the norm. Don't ever let anyone tell you your feelings/urges are wrong.

You have to find out what makes you happy.

[Drosselmeier]

You don't have to label yourself. People are more than willing to do that for you. :sad2:

Never thought of it like that.

It would be nice to be able to answer confidently when people ask. Maybe that's why I'm so hung up on an answer to that question. Sort of like a crutch to help me deal with peoples reaction.

I guess there's a lot of truth to what was said earlier about me thinking about this way too much. I guess I should try to just go by what feels most right.

I called up an old girlfriend who knows people. I'm going for a beer or fika with her on friday. I've decided to tell her that I suspect I'm *** and ask her if she can introduce me to any cool people. She's really great and I'm sure she's the one to talk to about this even aside from her connections.

Dross..you are a great catch no matter what sex gets you. You are attractive, intelligent and listen to the most awsome music ever .

[SaroDarksbane]

You don't have to label yourself. People are more than willing to do that for you. :sad2:

Just live.

Jude

Hey, I already said that! :angry:

[LunarSolaris]

I really can't add anything new to this discussion as there have already been very many supportive and well-thought posts. So... I will likely only reinforce some of the ideas which have already been brought up.

The most important thing in life, is to find a way to be comfortable in your own skin. God knows that was a hard journey for me, but I finally reached that point at the age of 32-ish. I am eternally grateful that I did, because I had made my own life hell up to that point. I truly hope the same for you Dross.

As many have already said, each person has a level of sexuality. Some are exclusively straight, some are mostly straight but may entertain some homosexual types of thoughts, some bisexual, etc. (consider the spectrum and diversity of human sexuality). In the end, each person needs to find comfort in their levels of sexuality and should never feel ashamed of it. The only exceptions I would have to this are exploitive sexual expression (i.e. adult/children), non consentual sexuality, and sexuality that blatantly debases other people and/or causes harm to others.

It's important to find your "niche" and to surround yourself with friends that accept you for you. Any friends that would degrade you, debase you, or otherwise not be supportive are not worthy of your friendship or time. Luckily, there are more and more ***/lesbian/transgendered friendly communities to plug into nowadays and are not as hard to find. Even moreso, these communities themselves are starting to evolve more and are not as "exclusive" as they once were (i.e. more groups are now open to having "straight" supporters being involved with them and realize that there should be openness for everyone).

Anyhow, my hats off to you Dross for taking a risk and talking about a subject that simply isn't easy to talk about. I hope it sounds pretty clear to you that you have supporters here at a very minimum.

[DurfBarian]

I'm 25% ***

Looks like you'll have to commute to San Francisco for three months a year. :grin:

Dross: Your posts in here make it abundantly clear that you're giving this whole matter the proper consideration it deserves. You have your head screwed on straight, whatever your emotions might be doing to you from time to time, so I'm not going to worry about you.

[myleftfoot]

I'm not so sure that it is. I'm sure a lot of reasonably straight men watch *** porn.

That's one of the funniest things I've read in a long time. And no it's not true.

[myleftfoot]

Meh, I'm straight and lesbian porn was never a turn-on for me.

"Hey, check out these two women who want nothing to do with guys!"

Yeah, that's attractive.

I don't know that there is hard line where you have to be fully *** or fully straight or equally attracted to both. Maybe you're just bi, with a preference for one side over the other?

That's the second funniest thing I've read in a long time. It's not like I care what the lesbians are thinking when I watch it. I think the female form is sexy, 2 is better than one.

[Drosselmeier]

Luckily, there are more and more ***/lesbian/transgendered friendly communities to plug into nowadays and are not as hard to find. Even moreso, these communities themselves are starting to evolve more and are not as "exclusive" as they once were (i.e. more groups are now open to having "straight" supporters being involved with them and realize that there should be openness for everyone).

Yeah. And that's almost the weirdest thing of all. There are two hundred thousand people living in this city, and there's a big university here so a lot of those people are relatively young. There should be *** people everywhere. It's absurd that I can't find any form of community around here.

Anyhow, my hats off to you Dross for taking a risk and talking about a subject that simply isn't easy to talk about. I hope it sounds pretty clear to you that you have supporters here at a very minimum.

It's easy to talk about it here. Even though I've talked a lot to some of you there's still the anonymity of this place being an internet forum. It's like I said to this other guy, it's always easier to talk to people you have some distance to.
That said, it feels really good talking about it. It can't be healthy to just go around turning it over in your own head day after day. And it's nice to get some support and well-wishes.

Nice to see you again by the way.

And no it's not true.

Link to study proving this please. Otherwise I'll just assume I'm right, since I usually am.

[Jude]

That's the second funniest thing I've read in a long time. It's not like I care what the lesbians are thinking when I watch it. I think the female form is sexy, 2 is better than one.

I don't think it's funny. :angry: I can't even count the times that I've been out on a date and a guy (or guys) hit on us. And when we say, "sorry, not interested, we're lesbians," the guy(s) say "that's okay, we don't mind."
Then when we say, "but we do mind," they get all nasty and insulting.

It's okay to look, but not okay to interfere with someone's date or harass someone who isn't interested.

Jude