I don't get mad, I get stabby.Originally Posted by Evil Conservative Inc
That's the other side of this coin. There are people who will direct their anger outward, and those who direct it inward. With varying shades of grey in between. On one end, we have the people who any time they're hurt by something, will snap and kill someone. On the other end, the people who will snap and kill themselves. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle, thankfully. In my experience, people who cut do it to gain a sense of control, whether it's a sense of control over *something* - the depth of the cut, the length, the number - or, in the case of those who do it because it's their way of avoiding suicidal tendencies, they do it to gain control over their emotions and urges.
Arbedark - You have to realize that there are very, very few people who will understand what it's like to try and understand self-injurious behavior, much less understand the reasons behind it. I don't, I've never been a self-injurer, but I can understand things from the point of view of an understanding, supportive person, who dated a woman who self-injured for a couple years. I've had more exposure to the SI 'community' (I apologize for the wording on this, I couldn't think of anything better) than most, but no matter what, having never SI'ed, I'm not going to ever understand things entirely. From what I understand, most SI'ers also don't fully understand. It's just a personal thing, and will change from person to person.
Self-injury isn't something you can understand just from having someone tell you about it, or explain it. You have to live it to understand it, which is a terrible price for that knowledge. In a way, I do consider myself to have lived it vicariously, but that still leaves huge gaps, which in all honesty, I have no interest in filling in, because most would require me to be a self-injurer myself.
OK, so if you know someone is cutting, chances are, they're a narcicistic *****.
A cutter cuts to white out pain. It sounds hypocritcal, but it works - Like any other addiction, it's something to hide behind. When I did it, it helped my mind stay quiet, and helped me relax. I did do my wrist, simply because it didn't work anywhere else except my neck, and well, you know.
I didn't advertise. No one knew until the tail end of it, an Ex of mine managed to take a look-see when she was hanging out with me.
If someone wants it seen, then they need to die. I broke this addiction a long time ago, but it had a purpose. Sure, now it's trendy.
I disagree with having to live it to understand it - just imagine any other kind of addiction. Like D2. You can't really stop once you start. It makes everything easier to handle, it whites everything out. But people who do it hide it well. And unsuspiciously. It's not a difficult task.
If you can't hide it, you're probobly a stupid narcicist. My scars? Strangely enough, not a single person has ever noticed, or pointed them out. They turn purple in the cold. Thats about it. *shrug*
Wow, this must not be much of a trend in East Texas. The only person I've ever seen cut themselves was this one guy who was in Wicca and thought Ozzy Osbourne was God, and this crackhead girl who is now in a padded room in a straight jacket somewhere. *shudders*
Adrian.
"Hey, wanna go cut together sometime?"
Or...
"hey man, I got this sweet ****ing blade dude, seriously, you GOTTA cut this ****!"
don't know anyone personally who does it (well, at least who' shown me or anything)
why not take up boxing as an outlet, though i've never been depressed enough to even consider cutting, it would seem that punching a bag until your knuckles were bruised would cause a similar pain (or just punch it with gloves for physical exertion, which would also clear the mind)
It doesn't. Even slicing the legs, or the upper arms doesn't do it the same way. It's an entirely different kind of pain.
Quietus, I agree, I probably over-reacted a bit with this thread. So I do apologise, and I realise that trying to explain to people who havent had any sort of personal contact with it at all is about as futile as trying to explain quantum physics to a toddler.
Not because they aren't intelligent, just because they don't have the necessary knowledge to fully understand.
Well that seriously relates to the individual. Some people do it on their wrists as it "mimics" suicide, while others, as you did, do it because it doesn't feel the same anywhere else. While other still can get the same feeling from other sensations on other parts of their body.
Im out of high school now, but there was none of it goin on last year. I've heard of one chick who does it, but she's got a lot of things goin on, so I think she's one of the real ones.
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