Cutting contact after a "relationship"

[Isolde212]

Why tear the bandaid off bit by bit when you can do it in one fluid motion and get it over with? This "cut them off for good" technique has been tried and tested and proven effective by yours truly. I personally don't see the point in keeping someone in your life when all you want to do is move on. Sometimes you can remain friends and sometimes you just have to go and live your separate lives. But you can tell right away if the friend "thing" isn't gonna work out. Why waste your time then? When they are out of the picture it's easier to put things into perspective too. People come and go out of our lives for reasons. Sometimes their purposes last only a few days or weeks. Sometimes they last a lifetime.

[Dondrei]

I never thought of it like that...I hope you're right. Do you or anyone else live in PR and know the culture? I'd be nice if there was a PR perspective

Well I've never lived outside of Australia, but I don't think that what she said is a particularly American trait - it just sounds like her lashing out. Frankly I think her comment was a little off colour. I can't say I know much about Puerto Rican culture but Hispanic people do tend to be hot-tempered and can say some pretty insulting things when they're upset - things you wouldn't get away with in a country like America.

I think serious, monogamous, long distance relationships spell unrealistic. I don't think anyone should expect that out of another person unless a serious, monogamous relationship existed before distance became a factor.

Not necessarily. My wife and I went on one date and after that had a two year long-distance relationship. Afterwards we got together and we've now been married for five and a half years. But that's not very common. And since the girl has already found someone else, I don't think long distance relationships are really the issue.

[Q33]

Why tear the bandaid off bit by bit when you can do it in one fluid motion and get it over with? This "cut them off for good" technique has been tried and tested and proven effective by yours truly. I personally don't see the point in keeping someone in your life when all you want to do is move on. Sometimes you can remain friends and sometimes you just have to go and live your separate lives. But you can tell right away if the friend "thing" isn't gonna work out. Why waste your time then? When they are out of the picture it's easier to put things into perspective too. People come and go out of our lives for reasons. Sometimes their purposes last only a few days or weeks. Sometimes they last a lifetime.

Thanks Isolde, you're helping me rationalize it all.

Well I've never lived outside of Australia, but I don't think that what she said is a particularly American trait - it just sounds like her lashing out. Frankly I think her comment was a little off colour. I can't say I know much about Puerto Rican culture but Hispanic people do tend to be hot-tempered and can say some pretty insulting things when they're upset - things you wouldn't get away with in a country like America.

Ah, ok, thanks for the clarification.

[Sir EvilFreeSmeg]

Chalk it up to most women being completely nuts. The rest keep it hidden.

[Nastie_Bowie]

Well I've never lived outside of Australia, but I don't think that what she said is a particularly American trait - it just sounds like her lashing out. Frankly I think her comment was a little off colour. I can't say I know much about Puerto Rican culture but Hispanic people do tend to be hot-tempered and can say some pretty insulting things when they're upset - things you wouldn't get away with in a country like America.

And you know this, how?

Read it in a book, saw it on the telly ... ?

... curious.

[PatMaGroin]

And you know this, how?

Read it in a book, saw it on the telly ... ?

... curious.

Ever heard of a "Latin temper"?

I back Dondrei here, of course its not true for 100% of the Hispanic population, but from what I've seen its a pretty predominant thing.

[Stevinator]

Women are a dime a dozen. heck roughly half the people on this rock are chics. if she's not the one forget her.

women that are worth keeping are few and far between. If you find the one, don't screw it up.

if you're not sure, she's prolly a dime a dozen chic.

breaking it off was a good call. she was taking time from you finding "her". If this one gives you any further crap, feel free to tell her this. what are you really losing? nothing.

[Dondrei]

And you know this, how?

Read it in a book, saw it on the telly ... ?

... curious.

I can't really be sure, since it's an impression I've had for a very long time. I presume it's some combination of anecdotal accounts, TV and literature. Living in Australia I couldn't have met more than a handful of Hispanic people in my life.

Women are a dime a dozen. heck roughly half the people on this rock are chics.

Yes, but roughly the other half of the people on this rock are competing with you for them.

[Stevinator]

Yes, but roughly the other half of the people on this rock are competing with you for them.

that might be a problem for you and he, but it's not for me!

ZING!

[Nastie_Bowie]

I can't really be sure, since it's an impression I've had for a very long time. I presume it's some combination of anecdotal accounts, TV and literature. Living in Australia I couldn't have met more than a handful of Hispanic people in my life.

I see. Thought that might be the case.

Ever heard of a "Latin temper"?

I back Dondrei here, of course its not true for 100% of the Hispanic population, but from what I've seen its a pretty predominant thing.

Living in So Cali, I'm not arguing the point, I was just wondering how someone from "down-under" gets such an opinion.