OT: Nice Guys question

[ShadowStone]

I remember a little while back someone posted a thread with a link containing a whole page of rants about how nice guys finish last, or nice guys get the shaft. I've been trying to find it again recently, but can't. Could anyone maybe post or send a link? I'd appreciate it

~SS

[bradley_turner]

http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.html

is that what you are referring to?

[HBeachBabe]

hint to those nice guys:
stop pining away for the prom queens, the cheerleaders, the sorority girls as if they are the only choices and then lamenting the dearth of women to date.

your school/campus/dorm/office is probably filled with women, average looking women, not impossibly thin models with DD breasts and giggly smiles like out of some soft-core porn movie. Women who understand the value of nice guys. They will never be trophy wives or attract jealous looks on the beach wearing their bikini but they are there, and odds are, if you are a "nice guy" ther is probably one or two nice girls with a crush on you that you have dismissed for the same reasons that other girls have dismissed you.

The problem isn't that nice guys can't get the girl, it's that nice guys tend to want the bad girl, but bad girls want bad boys. No one wants the nice girl. The average girl. the slightly pudgy, the mousy, the unpopular. Broaden your scope and you'll find the one for you. She's out there. Just stop looking in the wrong places.

[Spook_Cell]

hint to those nice guys:
stop pining away for the prom queens, the cheerleaders, the sorority girls as if they are the only choices and then lamenting the dearth of women to date.

your school/campus/dorm/office is probably filled with women, average looking women, not impossibly thin models with DD breasts and giggly smiles like out of some soft-core porn movie. Women who understand the value of nice guys. They will never be trophy wives or attract jealous looks on the beach wearing their bikini but they are there, and odds are, if you are a "nice guy" ther is probably one or two nice girls with a crush on you that you have dismissed for the same reasons that other girls have dismissed you.

The problem isn't that nice guys can't get the girl, it's that nice guys tend to want the bad girl, but bad girls want bad boys. No one wants the nice girl. The average girl. the slightly pudgy, the mousy, the unpopular. Broaden your scope and you'll find the one for you. She's out there. Just stop looking in the wrong places.

I disagree.

[barren]

The problem with nice girls is that they always want to start a damn relationship, and that costs a lot of money. Not to mention it's a huge drain on your free time.

EDIT:

I just read the link. That must've been written by one sad lonely boob, because the ladies love the nice guys.

[whomhead]

I disagree.

:lol:

give me DD super models, or me give death!! or maybe just a magazine with them inside of it!!

[WhiskeyJack]

hint to those nice guys:
stop pining away for the prom queens, the cheerleaders, the sorority girls as if they are the only choices and then lamenting the dearth of women to date.

.....

The problem isn't that nice guys can't get the girl, it's that nice guys tend to want the bad girl, but bad girls want bad boys.

That's not actually true- it's romaticized a lot in 'nerd' movies, but most 'nice' guys aren't chasing the chic set, or at least, the ones I've known throughout life (including myself) never did.

I've never chased the prom queens, cheerleaders, or sorority girls, thank you. and from what i've seen, there's a lot of good girls chasing bad boys- i've seen it lot, some really sweet girls dating absolute maniacs, creeps, etc., and then telling me how great i was as a friend, the nicest guy they knew (it's amazing how often I was told that, and when I seriously asked one girl if she'd date me, she told me i was too nice...lol...lord, how aweful! heh heh).

All of my girlfriends have been normal girls (band and orchestra geeks, and then normal students or working women), but were all ones i considered attractive.

what 'nice' guys (well, the ones that can't get dates or keep a gf) need to do is realize that nice doesn't mean doormat- most 'nice guys' don't dress to impress (and many i've known didn't work out at all), loose confidence around the girl they like, and are just plain afraid of, or unsure about how to approach the girl they like. Confidence does a lot, and most nice guys lack it to a degree. Partly it could be chasing the wrong girl, but mostly, from my recollection, it's from not actually chasing her to begin with. So- use all the good manners, listening skills, etc, that got you the rep as a nice guy, and then layer on some care about appearance, confidence (ie, don't be afraid to tell her you like her, and don't let being 'nice' keep you from making a move if the signs are there, and if you don't know if they are, learn how to tell!), learn to freaking dance (move from the hips, relax the shoulders and spine, and don't worry, everyone looks as goofy as you do) and most of all, relax....

that's my 2 ccs anyways...
wj

[Atompilz]

"Nice guys finish last" is a phrase invented by a-holes to justify a-hole behavior.

:lol:

[bradley_turner]

actually, i am a nice guy, and have been told so by all the girls i've ever gone out with or been friends with, and by some of their parents too =\ and i can tell you, while you're a teenager... nice guys finish last, i dont care about what a girl looks like, not really, like i wont go out with girls who are super skinny or obese, because of how insecure they obviously are, i like the average girls more, but just like that thing said, im too nice to date... i hate it, ive given serious thought to just becoming the ******* guys i hate, but then i come back to terms and realize that ill just have to wait until later in life to have real relationships

btw i hate typing explanations of stuff, because i can never convey what i mean properly

[Dacar92]

There was a song once that spoke of marrying an ugly girl. Something like if you want her to be loyal, if you want to come home to a hot meal everyday, marry an ugly girl.

Do you guys know that song? It may have been a Dr Demento song...