Im worried about classes

[nnndave]

Well i know its late but I got a lot of the little things on my mind.

I am having a great time in college and everything but I cant stop worrying about my future and everything. I always try my best in class but I always feel overwhealmed and like I can never make it. Unlike most people here, I always realize that I am here for my future first, then the present. But it seams like all I ever think about is the present and how I can have more fun. Sometimes it seems like everyone else is studying all the time and I dont have a clue whats going on in my classes. Last semester my adviser told me I was "meandering through college". I always feel guilty like I might be blowing away the best opportunity I will ever have in my life. Here I am almost 20 and I couldn't give a rat's *** what my life will be in 10 years. I try to piece it together but I could NEVER see myself in my own house with a wife and kids living my own life. Sometimes it just seems like I'm in a dream world. Like everyone says, the real world will hit you hard. I know what to expect and I know to be ready for it but it just doesn't seem like it could ever happen, it seems so far away. I think I might just be in a trasition period, but I cant help from being worried all the time. I go to all these parties and have a great time with everyone but in the back of my mind I'm worried as hell as to where my life is going to turn. CAn anyone else relate to this??? I know it sounds wierd but Im in one of those moods right now where I just want to talk and talk and talk about everything. Anyone else ever feel this way?

Yes, I know this doesn't sound like me. Im not really myself right now but I'm tired, post-drunk, and my mind is going crazy right now, I just wanted to see what yall think. man, i need to get some sleep

[corax]

ive felt like that before although im a little younger than you. end of high school. and lately because of the whole decide to move or stay her or go to uni at all and where to go and what to do im feeling very confused and sleepy. and mostly ive been putting it off but i should probably stop doing that.

maybe if youve got a reaaaaaaaally good friend who you know you can trust and is dedicated to their study. see if you can join them while they study so they keep you focused. i tend to get distracted alot when im by myself as i find other things to do but if their is someone else their i can just concentrate that much better
best of luck to you

[BartXeno]

I still feel like that. I don't even know what I want to be when I grow up and I'm 41! I'm meandering through life so I'm not the best one to give advice but, since you're already in place and sort of in gear, you may as well get the education thing over with. Sure, you could drop out and go back later, but it's harder once you get out of the groove. Just focus for a year or two or whatever you have left and you won't regret it. You're too close to reaching that goal in life to fall down on the job now. I didn't set up my future at all and I regret it. I could correct my mistakes from here, but I really am sort of lost and it's harder when you get older and you've let your social circle and opportunities shrink. I don't have the connections to do well at what I'm good at and I've never had the social skills to build those connections.

Trust me on this, whether you want it or not the future comes for you and if you don't prepare it can roll over you then leave you dragging behind feeling more hopeless than you did when you had a better chance to build who you are and who you will be. You don't have to let it overwhelm you though; because you can't prepare for everything anyway, but do work on what you know is necessary now to save yourself some grief in the future.

As for those things that seem remote, like wife and kids, they are remote (more than likely) and you don't have to fret about them right now. Don't worry about tripping over those steps until you get closer to them; mind where you are stepping now. You don't have to set in concrete where you are going to be in the future, but it's wise to aim in the direction you would like to be so you stand a chance of getting there without unnecessary heartache and struggle.

[Ash Housewares]

look at the bright side, the worst that could happen is you'll **** up and die

hmm...

I'm in the same boat as you, complete apathy, I need a reason outside myself to keep going, because my own good isn't motivational enough, perhaps you are the same

I don't usually like to talk a whole lot about such things, forces me to confront realities that I'd prefer not

[corax]

I don't usually like to talk a whole lot about such things, forces me to confront realities that I'd prefer not

then what do you spend 14k+ posts talking about :lol:

[Ash Housewares]

then what do you spend 14k+ posts talking about :lol:

nothing, for the most part

[Ev_]

I think I'm the opposite of you, dave. After graduating, I find myself feeling like I didn't enjoy college enough while I was there. You gotta do well, there's no doubt about that, but you gotta have fun as well. It's all about moderation.

[VaN_haMMerSteIn]

I still feel like that. I don't even know what I want to be when I grow up and I'm 41! I'm meandering through life so I'm not the best one to give advice but, since you're already in place and sort of in gear, you may as well get the education thing over with. Sure, you could drop out and go back later, but it's harder once you get out of the groove. Just focus for a year or two or whatever you have left and you won't regret it. You're too close to reaching that goal in life to fall down on the job now. I didn't set up my future at all and I regret it. I could correct my mistakes from here, but I really am sort of lost and it's harder when you get older and you've let your social circle and opportunities shrink. I don't have the connections to do well at what I'm good at and I've never had the social skills to build those connections.

Trust me on this, whether you want it or not the future comes for you and if you don't prepare it can roll over you then leave you dragging behind feeling more hopeless than you did when you had a better chance to build who you are and who you will be. You don't have to let it overwhelm you though; because you can't prepare for everything anyway, but do work on what you know is necessary now to save yourself some grief in the future.

As for those things that seem remote, like wife and kids, they are remote (more than likely) and you don't have to fret about them right now. Don't worry about tripping over those steps until you get closer to them; mind where you are stepping now. You don't have to set in concrete where you are going to be in the future, but it's wise to aim in the direction you would like to be so you stand a chance of getting there without unnecessary heartache and struggle.

That is the best damn advice I have ever heard. I am gonna take that to heart and stick with it for life.

[Cloud_Walker]

Well i know its late but I got a lot of the little things on my mind.

I am having a great time in college and everything but I cant stop worrying about my future and everything. I always try my best in class but I always feel overwhealmed and like I can never make it. Unlike most people here, I always realize that I am here for my future first, then the present. But it seams like all I ever think about is the present and how I can have more fun. Sometimes it seems like everyone else is studying all the time and I dont have a clue whats going on in my classes. Last semester my adviser told me I was "meandering through college". I always feel guilty like I might be blowing away the best opportunity I will ever have in my life. Here I am almost 20 and I couldn't give a rat's *** what my life will be in 10 years. I try to piece it together but I could NEVER see myself in my own house with a wife and kids living my own life. Sometimes it just seems like I'm in a dream world. Like everyone says, the real world will hit you hard. I know what to expect and I know to be ready for it but it just doesn't seem like it could ever happen, it seems so far away. I think I might just be in a trasition period, but I cant help from being worried all the time. I go to all these parties and have a great time with everyone but in the back of my mind I'm worried as hell as to where my life is going to turn. CAn anyone else relate to this??? I know it sounds wierd but Im in one of those moods right now where I just want to talk and talk and talk about everything. Anyone else ever feel this way?

Yes, I know this doesn't sound like me. Im not really myself right now but I'm tired, post-drunk, and my mind is going crazy right now, I just wanted to see what yall think. man, i need to get some sleep

My PoV: It sounds like you should do some thinking. Then get some sleep. Then think some more.[/]

I went to a university with a major that let me pursue my passion. I flunked out of that school after a year. So what I did was I came home, and went to a smaller university in my home town. I picked a major that would get me a job (accounting) and, very luckily in my case, quickly ensure me a profitable future. I still haven't lost my passion, and will pursue that at a later time, but right now I have to think more practically. As should you.

[Omikron8]

Well i know its late but I got a lot of the little things on my mind.

I am having a great time in college and everything but I cant stop worrying about my future and everything. I always try my best in class but I always feel overwhealmed and like I can never make it. Unlike most people here, I always realize that I am here for my future first, then the present. But it seams like all I ever think about is the present and how I can have more fun. Sometimes it seems like everyone else is studying all the time and I dont have a clue whats going on in my classes. Last semester my adviser told me I was "meandering through college". I always feel guilty like I might be blowing away the best opportunity I will ever have in my life. Here I am almost 20 and I couldn't give a rat's *** what my life will be in 10 years. I try to piece it together but I could NEVER see myself in my own house with a wife and kids living my own life. Sometimes it just seems like I'm in a dream world. Like everyone says, the real world will hit you hard. I know what to expect and I know to be ready for it but it just doesn't seem like it could ever happen, it seems so far away. I think I might just be in a trasition period, but I cant help from being worried all the time. I go to all these parties and have a great time with everyone but in the back of my mind I'm worried as hell as to where my life is going to turn. CAn anyone else relate to this??? I know it sounds wierd but Im in one of those moods right now where I just want to talk and talk and talk about everything. Anyone else ever feel this way?

Yes, I know this doesn't sound like me. Im not really myself right now but I'm tired, post-drunk, and my mind is going crazy right now, I just wanted to see what yall think. man, i need to get some sleep

The "Real World" ?

Haha that always gives me a good laugh when i hear "the real world will teach you some harsh lessons"

At the age of 22 i have already realized how harsh life is:

For the first part of it you go to school all day
Then you go to work all day
Then you retire and are alone and miserable
Then you die

Sucks? Yes

As for the studying/focusing problem i strongly recommend a near silent place by YOURSELF with no distractions like computer, TV, (music may help), etc.

Even in the silent parts of the library i can't stand studying because i like to think outloud and people would think that i am going crazy if they heard me babbling "Well this chemical reaction is connected to this....."